We all know that kids can be incredibly cruel to one another, but we are members of a group that is even more critical of each other and exponentially more ruthless in our judgement of one another–moms. Jesus-following moms need to behave differently toward one another.
In a culture in which mom are often judged (more critically than dads) on the health, appearance, and behavior of their children, other moms are the ones most likely handing out the poor ratings. The list of why we moms so easily fall into judgmental behavior of other moms could be quite long, though, I think our own insecurities would be reason number 1 on that list.
Remember, that the enemy is on the prowl every day to derail your morning? Well, he also works to bring division in groups that have incredible potential to bring glory to God were they to love each other deeply and cover each others’ failings. He works to divide husbands and wives, parents from their children, the local church, and Jesus-following mommas.
Can you imagine with me, what God could do with a group of un-distracted, Jesus-following moms who were more concerned with running wholeheartedly towards His purposes and bringing people with us into eternity than they were with how other moms discipline (or feed their kids, or handle screen-time, or apply sunscreen).
The eyes of the LORD search the whole earth
in order to strengthen those whose hearts are fully committed to him.
12 Chronicles 16:9a, NLT
No eye has seen, no ear has heard, and no mind has imagined
what God has prepared for those who love him.
1 Corinthians 2:9
So, let’s throw off our comparison games, our quick-to-make assumptions attitudes, our habits of pointing at flaws (even just mentally) rather than covering them. Link arms with that momma on the library couch and the exhausted mom with her full grocery cart and screaming three-year-old and refuse to fall prey to the enemy’s schemes to divide us.
We can start throwing off these attitudes by cheering, praying and listening:
Cheer: you will never agree with everything other moms do, but find something you admire and compliment another mom.
Pray: when you notice and action to which before you would have assigned judgement, lift it to the Lord–ask Him to fill that momma with fresh strength and zeal for parenting (it’s exhausting, you know that).
Listen: give other moms opportunities to share their frustrations with you and listen–don’t listen to answer, to fix, to compare to your children, just listen. And then, listen to the Holy Spirit for anything he may whisper to share with that mom.
Here we go, arm in arm–advancing the kingdom of God and throwing off the distractions of the enemy! Join me, and share your thoughts on Facebook.