It is a precious season to be needed by an infant for nourishment, or by a three-year old for tied laces, and by a six-year-old for tricky word-decoding in her chapter book. As our children grow, we train them to become less dependent on us, while at the same time, we should be training them to be deeply dependent on their Heavenly Father.
It’s wonderful to be needed–needed to keep clean clothes in closets and clean sheets on beds, wholesome dinners on the table, and checks in the mail for bills. These days filled with essentials can be long and sometimes us moms would like just a little less job security.
It would be okay with me not be needed for three-year-old buns wiping (but the trail of wipes next to Charlotte’s potty tells me that time isn’t here yet). If I were never again needed to settle a sibling battle, that would be glorious. But, in many ways I find great joy in my family’s need for me, and my ability to fill those needs.
Many days, though, I do have to ask Audrey or Charlotte to forgive me for my impatience when their neediness is wearing on me. Doesn’t it seem as though many times every one has a different need all at once? That is when my voice gets a little sing-songier to hide my mounting frustration.
But, Jesus help me, because I want to be so careful that I don’t make them feel unwanted or inconvenient in their neediness, not just because I’m there momma, but because our Father God relishes in our neediness.
“The truth is that self-sufficiency is a myth perpetuated by pride and temporary success…Rejoice in your insufficiency, knowing that My Power is made perfect in weakness.” (Jesus Calling, 125)
We parents are the picture they have of their Heavenly Father. Whew…if that doesn’t make YOU feel your own neediness and insufficiency, I’m not sure what will. Join me as we embrace their need for us—rather than pushing them away to manufacture some sort of self-sufficiency, let us pull them in, kneel beside them and teach them the beauty of depending on one more capable than yourself.
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